Often we are faced with situations (sometimes of our own making) that drive home the lessons we have to learn in this life. While the universe can and does use subtlety, what I like to call the Hammer of the Obvious is just as common. In reality, this epiphany of common sense is most likely the veil we place over our eyes and minds being removed. Friends and family both will say “We thought you knew.” Or “Yeah, that was obvious from the start.”
Most religions, philosophies, and ethical systems have some kind of “Do not lie” clause. This is an important social control that ensures that community keeps running smoothly. Even with this widespread ideal, there are small little “white” lies that are written off as etiquette, social norm, and politeness. Most do not want to truly know how you are when they ask “How are you feeling?”. We have discussed Right Speech before and this is part of it. Balancing the truth with kindness and usefulness can be difficult, especially among social interaction.
The most prevalent and widely used lie though is the one we tell ourselves. Referring back to the beginning of the post, this enlightened moment where we realize the truth. This moment is often painful and full of chaotic emotions that can transcend understanding. The pond becomes a torrent of stormy waters and ripples rise into waves.
Regaining your eyes, looking fully at the truth, and walking forward can be difficult but is necessary for growth. Even more so, forgiving yourself is the first step to rebuilding you. Forgiving others can be as difficult but is as important.